I have been on a path of personal development for many years now so I know what it means to change your life. Reflecting on the past five years, I can see that there isn’t a single area of my life that hasn’t changed, shifted or transformed in some way. From an external perspective, my life looks very much the same. I still live in the same house, work at the same job and married to the same incredible person, and yet every area of my life is different. I stopped wasting my health, my money, my energy and most importantly my time. My transformation was less about becoming a different version of myself and entirely about returning to who I already was and am.
How I Changed My Life
I didn’t embark on a path to change my life with this clear destination in mind. I truly didn’t know it could be this good. I say that simply because if you want to make changes in your life I want you to know it is worth it. It isn’t easy, but it is absolutely worth it.
There is a reason that every area of my life shifted. I finally became crystal clear about what matters most to me as an individual and as part of a partnership and through intense reflection and utter honesty I was able to transform my relationship to myself. If you were hoping for the easy path, you may wish to save yourself the next couple of minutes. If you are curious about what it really takes, keep reading.
I was the single common factor in every area of my life that either needed attention, or that I couldn’t handle anymore. I tried to make myself happy by creating a life of security and external accomplishment, but that didn’t get me the happiness results I had anticipated. I stopped looking outside of myself and started to get truly honest about how I was participating in my life. It was the best thing and the hardest thing I have ever had to do.
The fact that every area of my life shifted or changed is no accident. If I simply decided to get healthier in my physical body without addressing the beliefs and behaviors that got me to a place of being unhealthy, it would have worked for a time, but it would not have been sustainable. The transformation of my physical health didn’t happen over the course of a few weeks. In fact, over the last five years I have refined what my definition of health is to find myself in a place where I have never felt stronger or more vibrantly energetic. The same is true with my relationship to myself, the path of forgiveness, finding a way to be of service, owning my voice and loving every moment of my life. All of it was a process and within that process I learned a great many things about what it takes to change your life.
So You Want to Change Your Life?
I am so happy for you. I want to commend you for listening to that little voice that says there is something more. Trust me, there is. When I choose to work with clients, they must have that belief that there is something more and be willing to do what it takes to pursue that. I am not referring to the more stuff in life, I am referring to the little whispers that say that there is more to life than simply existing. The reason that it is vital that my clients have this is because it will sustain them when the difficult stuff arises. It will.
What Happens When You Decide to Change Your Life!
I have already told you how amazing it is when you embark on a path to heal your relationship to yourself. I believe in you. It is worth all of the effort. You are worth it. You deserve to heal yourself and to create a life you are in love with. I help people do this every day and it is the best work I have ever done.
The Road Less Travelled
If everyone in the world decided to heal their relationship to themselves, we would live in a very different place. While that will remain a fervent hope of mine, I live in the real world and it is my aim to support those people that decide to embark on a path of growth even if the path is not fully laid before them.
- It Takes Time – I want to encourage you to see the big picture. I want you to know that you are in it for the long haul. There isn’t an express route on the path to change your life. It is a beautiful road, with plenty of forks and roadblocks. Get your best playlist together, because it is going to blow your mind!
- Resistance – as you start to make shifts in areas of your life it is natural to experience resistance. Our bodies are truly incredible because their entire reason for being is to allow us to survive. That means that when you start to make shifts in your life, you may resist how good it can truly be. Your body knows that it can survive on a diet of Snickers and Doritos but you know it will thrive with more water and leafy greens. Your mind knows the comfort and security of fear and judgement and self-doubt but abundant self-love is a place of utter happiness. Anticipating that resistance may arise as you start to release the things that aren’t supporting you, will help you deal with it as it comes and to keep moving forward.
- Judgement – Take a deep breath friend. I know a thing or two about judgement. I have felt my fair share of it as I started to make changes in my life. Here is the most important thing to remember: keep going, it is worth it and what other people think of you is something that they own. Everyone processes the world to their own level of understanding. You may encounter judgement from a family member or an old friend as you start to change your life. Know that this is natural and prepare yourself to find a way to communicate in safe way, what you are doing to change your life. When we stopped drinking, I couldn’t believe the number of people that just didn’t get it or that clearly felt I was judging them for continuing. It was the right decision for me and the life I was creating and I didn’t need their approval. By connecting to your big why and your big vision for your life, it becomes easier to move past the judgement.
- Loss – this is the thing that stops a lot of people from creating the life that they truly want. It is inevitable that things are going to shift, in large ways and small, as you decide to change your life. There are relationships that have changed dramatically in the past several years. Space has grown as I started to make changes in my life. The sense of loss that happens or the grief that accompanies these changes is natural. That space was necessary in order to give myself the chance to tune into what I needed and how I was showing up in all of my relationships. Grief is natural. Feeling a sense of loss is natural. What are you learning from the space between? Does it feel natural or even necessary that some people don’t make it down the road with you? Can you send them love and compassion and wish them nothing but happiness? This is a beautiful opportunity to tune into your voice to know what is right for you and keep moving forward.
- Lone Wolf – I get to a certain point in my work with clients when this inevitably comes up. The realization that not everyone gets it. I went through it too. At some point, you may look around and see that there is fewer people around you or that you feel like the lone wolf in a pack of sheep. My advice to you is this: your pack is waiting for you. Don’t go back to the safety of the flock simply because you are worried that you may be alone. It doesn’t last long and soon enough, the people in your life accept your shifts, new people catch up to you and you have a new pack that gets your path and supports it fully.
Why It Is Worth It!
I will say it again, healing my relationship to myself was the best thing I have ever done. Everything changed for me the minute I stopped running. I listened to my inner voice and it led me to a place where all my dreams have come true.
When you decide to change your life by healing your relationship to yourself, you will create confidence, freedom and ease in more ways that you can ever truly imagine. There is nothing more empowering than knowing that you are living your life in alignment with what truly matters to you and the people that you love most. This is how you make the most of the precious time you are given. This is how you truly thrive.
So tell me: are you ready to change your life?