What is the one thing that you can do right now to create a life you love in 2017? It’s a new year so naturally our thoughts move towards what we want to cultivate or achieve in 2017. While I have learned to no longer set resolutions, I do believe in articulating an intention or a feeling for the year ahead.
I believe that we can all create a life we are in love with and that there is no reason to wait. I experience joy on a daily basis. That may be a bold statement to some but I have created a life I am in love with, fully and completely.
I am not a person that lives a particularly fancy or high-fallootin’ life. I go to work everyday and have a great job. I teach six yoga classes a week and LOVE, LOVE, LOVE being a teacher and sharing energy with my students! I drive a regular car, live in a small rancher, have zero fashion sense (I just threw out my iron because I refuse to be tied down by clothes that require ironing) and I am constantly daydreaming about how to turn my front yard into food production (#urbanfarmer). All of this to say, I am not trying to sell you anything. I just want you to decide that you are willing to create a life you love and experience joy everyday.
I had the extreme pleasure to lead two workshops this weekend that were designed to reflect on the closing year and set a powerful intention for 2017. I am deeply grateful to the participants because they had the most important component required to make a lasting change in their lives: willingness to have a different experience. One thing came up a lot on these workshops and that is what inspired this post.
Get on with it already.
Okay, okay. Drum roll please.
The number one thing that you need to do to create a life you love is: FACE YOUR FEAR!
And you’re welcome. Have a terrific day!
I kid, obviously. This is HUGE! Like Kilimanjaro huge. Sure…let’s just face my fears and create my joyful life.
I would never leave you hanging. I believe in you and I believe in the power of facing your fears.
How to face your fear and create a life you love?
You Better Recognize – Fear that is. It is a clever little monkey and it loves to prevent you from creating a life you love. It is a clever little monkey that likes to hide in a million ways wearing a million different disguises. Maybe you have heard of them: worry, guilt, anxiety, pressure, doubt, uncertainty, distrust, concern, obligation. Now riddle me this: raise your hand if you have ever experienced one or all of these emotions. Now ask yourself: how did they make me feel?
This is vital to beginning to see fear for what it is. When fear is running the show in your life, you will have less energy, less optimism, less abundance, less motivation, less, less, less. This a MAJOR clue that I would encourage you to pay attention to. Fear is heavy and confusing and harsh, but by beginning to look at the ways it shows up, we can begin to overcome it.
Cultivate Bravery – I wish I could say facing your fears is easy. It isn’t, but it is essential in order to create a life you love. Imagine for a moment that something is threatening those that you love and you are the person that is standing in between the people that you love most and the threat. How brave would you be? Do you think that you could find immeasurable strength to keep everyone safe? That is the level of bravery that you will need to cultivate in order to move through the fear to create a life you love. Dinasaur-coming-at-you bravery!
Our natural instinct is to run when faced with fear. I know because I have been an Olympic sprinter in the past when it came to facing things I was scared of. This leads me to my next point about FEAR (how convenient).
It Will Keep Coming Back – Fear has great staying power. Back to that sprinter analogy: imagine that you are running around a track, eventually you are going to pass the same place again and again if you keep running. Fear operates on the same principle. It will keep coming back if you ignore it. If you want to create a life you love, you will need to look directly at the fear and try to ascertain what it is trying to teach you and then and only then can you start to move past it.
Don’t Get Married – just kidding! I am married to the best human on planet earth and a strong proponent of marriage. Don’t get hitched to the fear. OF COURSE, you are going to have fearful thoughts come up. If you start to look directly at the fear, and see the lesson that it is teaching you, you will feel less inclined to move in with it and pick paint colours. Trust me when I tell you: this is the time to become a casual observer to your thoughts. If fear rears its ugly head, I implore you to look directly at it and observe. Like you would a painting in a gallery. Look at it from every angle, assess what it is trying to teach you and then maybe just maybe you will be able to release it and move onto to the next painting. If not, stay with it a little longer and invite your friend curiosity to the party. When you can begin to pick and choose the thoughts that you attach to in a mindful way, you can strengthen your power over fear and take massive leaps forward to create a life you love.
Voice of Love – If the voice of fear leaves you feeling dull, sad, worried and anxious then the voice of LOVE is going to be your new BFF as you create a life you love. When love is ruling the joy you have energy, you literally feel warm and fuzzy and generous and sparkly and believe in unicorns. You catch my drift. I also like to point out that when you are listening to the voice of love your decisions are in alignment for you. The next time you are about to make a decision ask yourself: “is this the voice of fear or love? Is this in alignment for me?”
The Year of Fear
2016 was the year of fear for me. I am deeply grateful for how many times this monkey showed up in my life. I learned so much about myself and my own capacities each time I stood directly in front of fear and took steps towards it to move past it. This was one of the most powerful experiences of my life. To be able to finally face the fears that I had been carrying for my 34 years on this planet and step into my strength.
I’m CURED! Not exactly, but I can see fear for what it is and I can learn from it now. I don’t have to etch in stone every fearful thought I have, but I can let it inform a new path for me. Life is so much richer when we get off the endless circle track and onto the beaten path.
Are you ready to create a life you love? Does that terrify you? Good, it means you are heading in the right direction. I implore you not to wait. I implore you from the bottom of my heart to STOP wasting your time in the fear loop. There is so much joy for you to experience every day and you can start right now to create a live you love. It is your birthright.
If it still feels impossible you are not alone. I am here to help and you can always fill out a few questions and we can have a conversation about what is standing in the way of you creating a life you love. You can ALSO enter your name and email address to the bar at the top of this page (and every other or the strategically-timed pop up) and get FREE instant access to my resource library. I am always dreaming up ways to support you further.