Hope is a powerful emotion. Hope for happiness. Hope for change. Hope for healing. Hope for freedom. Hope can make you desire deep and fundamental changes in your life. If our hopes and dreams are so powerful and clear, why can it feel so hard to implement those things in our lives? Why is it that hope makes you desire something so completely, but at the same time, it can feel just out or reach or entirely not possible?
I am a deeply happy and positive person. When I encounter people, that is either something that they love or that they resist. As a coach, I am deeply invested in my client’s hopes and what they want to create in their lives. Just last night, I got the sweetest note from a new client, letting me know that they are radiating with hope and excitement about this process. This is hands down, my favorite kind of message. This client, is deeply immersed in hope and is ready to believe in what is possible.
The Comfort of What You Know
Yep. Your fear is sickly comforting to you. Your fear is familiar. You may hate your fear or more painfully, you hate yourself for succumbing to that fear. At the same time, you may burn the candle of hope so brightly that you feel at war with yourself. This is such a painful place to be in. To desire change deeply and then to not believe that it is possible. To have hope whisper at you to say yes to making a change in your life and then retreat back into the familiar embrace of fear and patterns.
Congratulations my sweet friend, you are a human being. So many of my clients feel ashamed of the way that they feel or paralyzed by the patterns that fear perpetuates and yet at the same time, hope is there, beckoning to them. This can feel like emotional warfare. You can want something so bad and it can be clear as the morning sun, but what happens when you think of it, hope for it, desire it and then another, powerful part of you pipes up and says: “ya but, that’s good for someone else but not for you?”
I had my own list of ya but’s. I hated that voice of doubt. I loved the voice of hope but the volume knobs were seriously out of whack on those voices. Why is it so easy to believe that the voice of doubt or fear is the one that you need to listen to? That voice is keeping you safe. It is keeping you in a familiar pattern of safety. Despite the fact that you might resent your fears and deeply want to shift the patterns that they cause in your life, they are what you know. You know that you can survive your fears. You know what will happen when you listen to your own list of “ya but’s” and retreat once more into what is known. You know that you will end up in the same place and maybe you so desperately want to have a different experience that it is all you think of, but it can feel impossible to say yes to something that you haven’t yet experienced.
Hope: The Desire For More
Doubt is loud, but hope is persistent. Hold onto your hope. Cling to it like it is the life raft in the sea of your pain. Your hopes are your inner voice begging you to listen and to create something new for yourself. Your hope is the truth of who you are. You are not your fears. You are not your limiting beliefs. You are not your list of “ya but’s.” You are not your patterns. You are your hopes.
How to Believe in What is Possible
- Decide – I ran from my inner voice for a lot of years. I became an expert at ignoring it and running from it. My hopes were persistent though. They sat there waiting for me, whispering to me until I stopped running. I chose to stop running. I chose to listen. I chose to open up my emotional can of worms and peer inside. It was simultaneously terrifying and the most liberating thing I have ever done.
- Be Brave – I wish I could tell you that opening that can of worms was all sunshine and rainbows. It was messy. I got a little worm guts on me. But despite that, I did it anyway. Lean into your bravery. Lean into the strength that you have within you that has allowed you to survive your pain and your patterns and call upon it to be brave enough to face your own emotional worms.
- Turn Up the Volume – My hope started as a whisper. I heard my inner voice say to me very clearly “there is something more.” What is your inner voice saying to you? How in tune to it do you feel? How persistent can you allow it to become so that the voice of fear is given a run for its money?
- Write Your Hope List – what are your hopes? What is on your list of what you so deeply desire in your life? When I sit with clients, they tend to be crystal clear on what they don’t want to persist, but struggle with articulating what they do want. That part is always framed around what their fear makes them believe is possible. Fear will limit what you believe is possible. If you can listen to your inner voice and start to write out what your hope list is, even if it is just in the safety of your personal reflection, you can begin to decipher between the voice of fear and the voice of love.
- Choose Hope – Let’s keep this simple. Hope feels good. It feels like the flutter of excitement, creation, freedom, joy. My hopes feel like a pull in the center of my chest drawing me forward to the people that I am here to help. I choose to think of them and let that guide me instead of the 10,000 reasons that I could believe that it isn’t going to work out. Choose your hopes. Choose your inner voice and the light and truth of who you are every time. Acknowledge that your hope is not going anywhere and open yourself up to the possibility of those hopes becoming your reality.
Let Hope Shine
We are so accustomed to prepare for what could go wrong or what we know we can survive that we can let that guide our lives. Hope remains however. It is our way out of the fear and pain. It is first step on the path to freedom. It is the lighthouse by which you can create a new path forward. All you have to do is choose hope and begin to see what is possible.
So tell me: How will you let hope lead the way?