Matt and I have perfected the art of Sunday. Getting up early to drink coffee slowly, rainy dog walks, exercise, food and not a single thing on the to-do list.
I have a sweet little life. I cherish these days. Maybe it is the slower pace, the total freedom or the fact that it is just us in our bubble, but our conversations often lead to big dreams, planning and the future.
Yesterday was one of those days. We started talking about where we wanted to be and how we could get there. I am all for dreaming but there comes a point where the dream has to land in the real world and at that point, my practical planner jumps in. Thankfully, that girl has flipchart paper and colourful sharpies!
Before we knew it we were in a full-blown life planning session. We could see our lives at 43, 46 at 56! We were brainstorming, refining and clarifying our goals, what we loved about our life and how our lifestyle looked in relation to the way that we spent our time at work and in our free time. This conversation touched on all areas of our life: dreaming big, our health and wellness, our mortgage, our income, our pensions, everything. We sat in the office for a couple of hours, with me on the floor and we brainstormed and calculated and wrote shit down.
When we look at how we spend our money, our time and how we take care of ourselves, Matt and I can listen to one another and let it be a positive experience for both of us. I know this isn’t always easy for couples to do and I offer this suggestion: remember you are on the same team. You have chosen to build a life with this person which means that you are co-captains of your ship. You should be reading from the same map or playbook. Get on the same page, listen and give one another the space to share and be heard.
We all need space to dream. Those dreams are not messages to be ignored, they are whispers of what matters to you, both as individuals and as half of a partnership. You also need a plan and that plan has to fit into your actual life. Give yourself the space and freedom to dream but get it out of your heads and into the real world.
It may have been just a typical Sunday but when we let our minds wander to what was possible and what we wanted we were able to see how we could get to that place while still loving the life that we have now. Planning doesn’t take the fun out of life, it gives us the ability to make decisions with intention so that nothing is wasted and we are making the most of the precious time we are given.