By the time I had reached my late twenties, I thought I had done all the necessary things to create a life I was in love with. I was married to an incredible man, had an enormous and loving family, a great career and home and a life of stability and comfort. There was however, a voice that told me, “keep looking, there is something more.” While I was in a place of happiness and contentment, I was not in a place where I felt I could truly thrive. I became acutely aware of the fact that I didn’t want to spend the next few decades hitting repeat on my days and living the same, week, month or year over and over again.
I am very lucky that I heard that voice. A few years later, I find myself in a place where I am truly thriving and living all my dreams come true. I am happy, deeply grateful and have more energy than I ever thought possible to share with my students and clients. I am squeezing every ounce of goodness out of my life and making the most of the precious time that I am given.
How do you get to a place where you can truly thrive? A clue for me is that everything in my life is by my own design. I have created this life by making powerful choices that are in alignment for me and my spouse. I had to stop living someone else’s life in order to be in a place where I could truly thrive in my own.
What Do You Believe?
The place where we all must start is to examine our beliefs around what our life should look like. Do you believe that you are meant to truly thrive? Do you believe that you are meant to struggle? When you see a person that you admire that seems to be happy and content, do you believe that you can have it too? Examining our individual beliefs around a particular topic is vital to ensure that our mindset is in alignment with our reality. If you believe that you are meant to struggle, you will not be in a place where you can enjoy the abundance that comes when you are truly thriving.
To be in a place where you can truly thrive, you must shift your mindset first. Believing that you are worthy of it, will enable you to accept the goodness that comes your way as you begin to make the changes or take action on the following steps.
I have always had a very strong connection to my inner voice. Hearing that voice is one of my first clear memories as a child. Our inner voice is always speaking to us. Sometimes we listen and sometimes it is difficult to trust that voice. You must define what it truly means to thrive for you. This will be different for everyone and when you listen to your inner voice you will create a definition of what it means to truly thrive that is as unique and genuine as you are. This is the key to making it last.
Tuning into and listening to your inner voice is the path to true freedom and confidence. When you are living according to your inner compass, you will know what is right for you and will be less concerned with how other people are living their lives. You can wish them well and know that you are creating your own space to truly thrive.
Honour Your Body
In addition to honouring your connection to yourself, you must take impeccable care of your body. Health is not just the absence of disease or pain. True health is vitality and abundant energy. Until I started taking care of my physical body, I had no idea the capacity to truly thrive that I possessed. When I think about why I take care of myself, I know that it is because I want to be well as long as possible so that I can continue to teach and serve those that seek my support.
Connecting your physical health to what it means to truly thrive for you will allow you to prioritize taking care of yourself. Your physical health is something that you have direct control over and you have the ability to make powerful choices to support your wellness. This isn’t about having a rock-hard body, it is about immense wellness, for as long as possible, so that you too can squeeze every last moment of goodness out of your life and truly thrive.
Edit, Edit, Edit
I don’t believe in acquiring more, I believe in living more. If you want to truly thrive you need to protect that powerful energy. We are all given an hourglass with a certain number of grains of sand. We know which direction the sand is flowing but we have no idea how many grains are left. Do you want to spend this time, doing things that are not in alignment for you? Look at all areas of your life. Are there things that you can let go of simply because they weigh you down? This can be physical stuff or energetic outputs that take you further away from your definition of what it means to truly thrive. Start small, but begin to edit the areas of your life that are not adding up to your definition.
Creating boundaries can be terrifying, but oftentimes it is vital to ensure that we have the energy to truly thrive. I remember sitting in the office on a beautiful Friday night in the middle of summer, working way past quitting time in a job that did not set my soul on fire. I received a phone call from my husband and he asked me if I was coming home anytime soon and if so, he would love to make me dinner and enjoy it on the deck. That woke me up. Why was I sitting at this desk missing out on my life? This job, while such a great one, was just that. I immediately started creating boundaries around my day job so that I could truly thrive in my personal life.
If you can connect to your definition of what it means to truly thrive, see how you are spending your time and with whom, creating a boundary can seem less terrifying and in fact become absolutely necessary in order to support the life you are creating. One of my favorite questions to ask myself when faced with a decision, is this: “is it a hell yes or is it a hell no?” Placing your decision in these stark circumstances in a powerful decision-making tool. Each hell no that we say yes to, because we feel obligated or can’t find the way to communicate a boundary is taking us further away from truly thriving.
I didn’t have a scary wakeup call that made me dramatically shift my life. I have always had a very loud inner voice that has supported me. It told me loud and clear that there was something more. Instead of looking outside of myself for that something more in the form of bigger, faster, better, I chose to dig deep. I am so grateful that I heard that voice and that I listened and trusted it. It guided me to my own definition of what it means to truly thrive. I am lucky enough to get to support others to find their own definitions and create a life they are in love with.
So tell me: are you ready to take your life off pause and truly thrive?