Several years ago I found myself in an interesting place personally. I was 30, I had a great job which was heading wherever I wanted to take it, I had just gotten married to the best man on planet earth, we had a home and all the external trappings of a good life. I had followed the plan that was laid before me by all of the beautiful people that had come before and I felt let down, stuck and frustrated. How could I have done everything right and still feel like my life was on pause and something was missing?
I can’t believe how much my life has transformed since that time. There is not a single area that hasn’t experienced a significant shift as a result of me getting to the end of my ‘how to have a good life’ checklist. And if you were to look at my life, nothing on the outside has changed. I am still married to that incredible man, I still work at the same place in the same job with the same incredible people, I have three dogs and live in the same home, but my inner world is radically different.
Everything about how I looked at the world and my relationship to it changed. I came to the end of the checklist and still felt that there was something more. I flipped that checklist over to see if I missed the step that would make me truly happy. This can’t be it. How can I get to the place where I am having a full experience of my life, making the most of the time I am given and contributing in some way?
I could talk endlessly about how different things are for me now, but the most critical part of my transformation began the day that I became willing to have a different experience of the world around me. I didn’t know it would lead to this place where I was no longer wasting my health, my money and my time but all of those things came as a natural result of deciding that I had to look at my inner world first. I began to deeply examine every aspect of my life and the way I was behaving, interacting, processing and communicating with myself and the world around me. I unapologetically edited the things that were no longer serving me and found a way to begin to contribute my unique skills and abilities to serve others.
What has this lead to? Is more-ness a word? More laughter, more clarity, more confidence, more connection with beautiful people each day, more ease, more energy, more happiness, more vitality, more joy, more light, more time, more spirit, more hope, more dreaming, more living life fully and completely.
Where did it start? There was no map or checklist for this transformation. The only thing that shifted was this: I became willing to have a different experience of my life and nothing was going to stop me from doing it. It hasn’t always been easy. This work is not for the faint of heart but it is certainly for the willing. I had willingness and I found tools and support. I now know the work that needs to be done so that I in turn, can support others.
Nothing can stop someone that has the will to change. It is the switch that needs to be flipped when embarking on transformation. It will be the thing that keeps you moving when you encounter those inevitable roadblocks. Willingness was the first step on my journey and while that sand is still flowing through the hourglass, I know that I am making the most of whatever time I have here and loving every second of my life.