Yesterday was a very typical Sunday with my husband. It was utterly ordinary and yet it felt completely extraordinary. I would rank it in the top five of best days in recent memory. It is days like this that remind me how you think you have time and yet there is never enough.
What made this Sunday so special? Absolutely nothing and absolutely everything. We woke up early, as has been the habit lately, and took our time drinking coffee. We took our dogs for a rainy dog walk and then went to the gym and pool for a couple of hours. We followed this with a yummy lunch at one of my favorite gypsy joints and returned home all before noon, to sit in companionable silence for several hours, with him working on car design and I planning a trip.
The thing that I love most about my husband is that he is so easy to be around. He is a very happy and funny man. I have often said that even if I wasn’t married to him, I would want to be friends with him. He is exactly as he seems and yet I know there are so many things that only I get to see. He is funny and weird and utterly joyful.
Yesterday was full of many of our favorite things. We took care of ourselves and got out into the world and then returned home to enjoy the silence and security of a rainy day at home. The day seemed to stretch on forever and we both remarked on how amazing it felt that time was moving so slowly for us. We shared delicious food and we spent time working on our own stuff while enjoying one another’s company.
By all accounts it was an unremarkable day. We didn’t do anything just for the sake of doing something. There was no flashiness. So why was this Sunday so incredible?
- We got outside
- We took care of our health and wellness
- We indulged in our passions
- We laughed
- We ate
- We were fully present
This last one is the most important thing. Being fully present is not easy in this time of constant distraction. Have you ever looked up from your phone and had a person asking you a question that you didn’t hear or looked at the clock and 15, 20, 30 minutes has evaporated?
This day was a celebration of ordinary. It was full of routine things that were made far more fun and interesting because of the company we kept and our presence. They were also things that WE love to do. When you tune in and allow yourself to be fully present the ordinary things or the company that you keep become extraordinary.
Why is it important that the ordinary become the extraordinary?
You Think You Have Time and Yet There Is Never Enough
I would take a million days like the one we had yesterday over a single day of extravagance or excitement. I laughed more times than I can count. I spent the entire afternoon in my pj’s and ate and ate and ate. This is when life is truly happening. We connected, we took care of ourselves and we made the most out of that single day and our time together. These days are sacred to me and there will never be enough of them.
There will never be enough laughter or touch or connection. When I get to the end of my life, I will want another day like the one I had yesterday. This is the overriding theme of my passion in life. To remind people that time is our most precious resource. But why?
Time goes by. It is fleeting. We lose people far too early or too young and we want more time with them. Would you rather have a single week of excitement or escape in an entire year with the people that you love or the knowledge that you loved, connected with and celebrated the people in your life everyday because you chose them over the million other distractions available to you?
We are all given an hourglass with a certain number of grains of sand and while we know which direction those grains are flowing, we have no idea how many are left. Time is sacred. It is precious.
Become Unapologetic About How You Spend Your Time
- Look at the areas in your life where you are not fully present. How are you participating in distraction?
- Define what you LOVE to do and routinely do it. This doesn’t have to happen everyday but create room in your life to love the hell out of something simply because it makes you happy.
- Practice gratitude – become deeply thankful about the blessings in your life.
- Make the mundane and ordinary utterly extraordinary (that includes folding the laundry).
- Edit, edit, edit. I have said this often. If you are overwhelmed or feeling guilty or doing things out of obligation, examine why you are doing them. Are you ready to let them go?
- Deeply examine how you spend your time. Are you putting in long hours at a job and missing out on your life? Why? Is it necessary or is it a habit or obligation? Do you do things for others at the cost of yourself?
I use this question a lot with my clients: Are you going to get to the end of your life and wish you had worked more, worried more, felt more guilty or acquired more stuff? Or do you think you will wish you had laughed more, hugged and kissed and connected more.
Time is fleeting. Maybe this scares you or maybe it inspires you. Maybe it is a bit of both. The key is that what you do with your time is up to you. You hold the reins and you get to decide what you want your life to look like. You can decide right now that you are ready to release the things that weigh you down, take your life off of pause, tune into your inner voice and make the most of the precious time you are given.
How will you become more present? How will you celebrate your life? How will you make the ordinary, extraordinary?